Issue No. 16

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GLOBAL PEACE

Seven Social Sins That Lead to Violence

MOHANDAS K. GANDHI

Source: Nonviolent Action, NACC, 4554 12th Ave. NE, Seattle, Washington 98105, U.S.A.

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INNER PEACE

One of the Greatest Healers

One of the greatest healers in the world, says Dr. Susan Smith Jones, is forgiveness.

"Let go of anger over what happened to you as a child. You can achieve any goal you wish when you let go of blame and move onward and upward in your life. Let go of any tally of wrongs done to you by your parents or other people. Release the past so that you can wake up every morning feeling free and unchained. Live in the present moment and think positive thoughts about your life. Even in the most difficult of times you can always find something to be grateful about."

Susan Smith Jones, Choose to Live Each Day Fully, Celestial Arts Publishing, P.O. Box 7123, Berkeley, CA 94707, U.S.A.

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PARENTING

Awakening Empathy in Children

There is evidence that empathy is natural in children. It is found even during infancy stages. As children grow up, however, this is lost due to the family environment. A series of studies at the National Institute of Mental Health by Marian Radke-Yarrow and Carolyn Zahn-Waxler have shown that the way parents discipline their children has got a lot to do to nurture the empathic concern of children. The researchers found that:

Source: Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence. Bantam Books, 1540 Broadway, New York, N.Y. 10036, U.S.A.

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INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

The Catching Eyes Game

Here is a curious game that you may wish to experiment with that will teach children the friendly art of direct eye contact.

When you go out with your children to a public place, challenge them to a contest to see who can "catch the most eyes." They must look at someone, a stranger, until they glance back, then smile as you catch their eye.

Count the ones who smile back and the ones who don't. The "smile-backers" are worth two points, while the "glance but don't smile" people are worth one point.

When author Richard Eyre tried this with their children, the kids counted more than a hundred points each. One of the children observed: "It's amazing how many people just look away the minute you catch their eye." And another said: "Yes, and they're not near as fun as the ones who look back at you and smile. I think those are the happy ones."

Source: Linda and Richard Eyre, Teaching Your Children Values. Simon & Schuster, 1230 Avenue of the Americas, NY, NY, U.S.A.

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CHARACTER BUILDING

Set Your Ethical Compass

When you face a dilemma that you are not prepared for, there is a strong pressure to solve it in the most convenient way, even if that solution is unethical or harmful in the long run. It can be a simple circumstance such as having to turn down an appointment and you find that you have to lie in order to get away from it. When the lie is discovered, you may lose a friend or earn the distrust of an acquaintance. The result is worse than telling the truth.

It is important therefore to be able to define one's ethical principles so that it will come in handy when we are faced with a crisis.

Best-selling author Robert Ringer emphasizes this in his book The 10 Habits of Highly Successful People:

"It's imperative to understand that for any strategy or plan of action to be sound, it must begin with a solid moral foundation. Without such a foundation, anything a person tries to build is destined to crumble. The bad effect of a bad cause may not show up immediately, but you can be certain that ultimately it will make its appearance."

He therefore suggests that we should develop "a clear set of values that predetermines your day-to-day behavior. You need to know what you believe in ahead of time in order to understand why you should do things a certain way. What do you believe is ethical? What do you believe is unethical?"

What are the consequences of failure to clarify these principles? "If you don't formulate your moral beliefs ahead of time, your actions may inadvertently be based on spur-of-the-moment whims, on emotion, or on immediate gratification. In other words, you're likely to revise your ethical standards to fit each new situation as it arises, a practice commonly referred to as `situational ethics.' An individual who engages in situational ethics is someone who does not possess a fixed standard of right and wrong. Right is simply whatever he perceives to be in his immediate best interest at any given time, which is a foolproof formula for failure. It's imperative that you decide on a clear, concise set of moral values while your intellect is in control."

Source: Robert Ringer, The 10 Habits of Highly Successful People (originally published as Million Dollar Habits). Advantage Quest Sdn. Bhd. 9A Jalan SS26/6, Tman Mayang Jaya, 47301 Petaling Jaya, Malaysia.

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PEACE MAKING

What Children Can Do
to Make a Difference

Below are suggestions to children to become peacemakers. It is prepared by MEND or Mothers Embracing Nuclear Disarmament.

Source: Richard Zimmerman, What Can I Do to Make A Difference? A Plume Book, Penguin Books U.S.A. Inc., 375 Hudson St., New York, NY 10014, U.S.A.

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ECOLOGY

Six Principles of Ecological Shopping

Source: Jon Naar, Design for a Livable Planet. Harper & Row, 10 East 53rd St., New York, NY, 10022, U.S.A.

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Lessons on Radio

Listen to the Peace Center's weekly radio program, "Golden Lessons in Living" (Mga Gintong Aral ng Buhay) every Saturday evening, from 6 to 7 p.m. at DWAT, 774khz AM band. The outlines of the topic may be obtained free by writing to: Peace Center, Theosophical Society in the Philippines, 1 Iba St., Quezon City, Philippines. Tel. No. 741-5740; Fax No. 922-6337.

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Did you know?

Each year Americans throw away

J. Elkington, J. Hailes, J. Makower, The Green Consumer. Quoted in Richard Zimmerman, What Can I Do to Make A Difference? A Plume Book, Penguin Books U.S.A. Inc., 375 Hudson St., New York, NY 10014, U.S.A.

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BUSINESS & POLITICS

Practicing Holistic
Business and Politics

Solving today's complex problems requires holistic vision, says Diane Dreher in her the Tao of Peace. "But some people cannot see that far. [They] are caught up in the old fragmented vision, unaware of the consequences of their actions." We must take responsibility to take extra efforts in balancing the damage that our own actions may be inflicting. Here are examples:

Source: Diane Dreher, The Tao of Peace. Donald I. Fine, Inc., New York, U.S.A.

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INNER PEACE

How to Cope with Anxiety

Anxiety is the tendency to worry about unspecified things. It is a diffuse, free-floating dread. It is very hard to confront it in this form; it surrounds us like a fog and seems to offer no target for attack or action.

It can cause shortness of breath, heart trouble, sweating, fidgeting, headache, stomach upset, and a sense of intense helplessness.

Underneath the specific fears that can mark general anxiety lies a deeper fear about our place in the world.

Here are some suggestions from Dr. Chopra's How to Solve Your Personal Problems:

Source: Dr. S.C. Chopra, How to Solve Your Personal Problems. S.S. Mubaruk & Brothers Pte. Ltd. 2 Kallarg Avenue, 02-07 Kallang Bahru Complex, Singapore

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ECOLOGY

Two Environmental Myths

Here are two commonly held beliefs on environment which are untrue, according to Lou Gold of the Siskiyou Regional Education Project in Portland, Oregon:

Myth #1: Forests are renewable resources. This is true for pulp and cheap wood fiber, but not the valuable wood with clear, dense vertical grain. The latter is the product of old-growth forests, which take hundreds of years to develop.

Myth #2: That there is a conflict between economy and ecology; that is, that when wild forests are protected, there is a corresponding loss of job. In the long run, the contrary is true: environmental diversity will create economic diversity, and a stable healthy economy will be produced only by a healthy ecology.

Source: Jon Naar, Design for a Livable Planet. Harper & Row, 10 East 53rd St., New York, NY, 10022, U.S.A.

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ENVIRONMENT

How to Keep Out
Insects or Pests

Here are non-toxic ways to keep out insects from your home:

Ants sprinkle red chili powder, borax, or dried peppermint where you see them coming in. Plant mint by the back and front doors of your house to help keep them out.

Beetles and Weevils Put a bag leaf in each container where you store flour and other grain products.

Cockroaches Mix equal parts of baking soda and powdered sugar, and spread it around the infested area. They can also be controlled with common boric acid powder sprinkled around baseboards, under sinks, etc. Do not use in places accessible to children and pets. Garlic is another natural pest-repellent; you can grow it in your garden to keep harmful bugs away or mix it in your blender with a mild soapy liquid and use as a spray.

Fleas Feed your pets nutritional or brewer's yeast. The vitamin B supposedly makes them immune. Dips and sprays containing delimonine gas derived from citrus extracts safely repel fleas and other pests, as do spray repellents from cedar wood, eucalyptus and bay leaves.

Flies Hang clusters of cloves in your rooms. Leave crushed orange or lemon skins in strategic places; the citrus oil repels flies and other insects.

Mosquitoes Burn oil of citronella rings. Grow garlic, marigolds, and any flowers that attract birds who eat mosquitoes. Spray with pyrethrin. Don't use electronic zappers; they attract and kill beneficial insects but not mosquitoes.

Rats The best is still the cat. Don't leave food in the open. Stuff up their entry holes with steel wool. Use mechanical traps, but beware of poisoned bait. One of the most effective nontoxic safeguards against rats is still the cat.

Source: Jon Naar, Design for a Livable Planet. Harper & Row, 10 East 53rd St., New York, NY, 10022, U.S.A.

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VEGETARIANISM

Celebrities for Vegetarianism

Many well known people have espoused a vegetarian way of life. Here are what some of them say:

Paul and Linda McCartney: "We won't eat anything that has to be killed for us. We've been through a lot and we've reached a stage where we really value life."

Natalie Merchant: "If you can't conceive of beating an animal, you shouldn't conceive of eating an animal."

Dennis Weaver: "There are many reasons . . . everything from spiritual reasons to saving the environment. But the reason that should appeal to everyone is health. Without it there is little chance of happiness."

The list of famous vegetarians is long. Here are some of them:

Michael Jackson
Madonna
Carole King
Candice Bergen
Carol Burnett
Susan St. James
Belinda Carlisle

Source: Richard Zimmerman, What Can I Do to Make A Difference? A Plume Book, Penguin Books U.S.A. Inc., 375 Hudson St., New York, NY 10014, U.S.A.

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CREATIVITY

How to Brainstorm

Brainstorming is the rapid generation of solution ideas without evaluating their merits. It is usually done by a group of people who shoot out possible ideas and somebody just lists them as they come. In brainstorming, you try to get quantity, not quality, of ideas. Many of the ideas will later be sorted out and excluded. But during the brainstorming session itself, no screening is done, even the ridiculous ones. Many seemingly insoluble problems have often found their solutions through this method.

Here are a few guidelines to brainstorming as suggested by Dr. Robert Bolton in his book, People Skills.

Don't evaluate. Nobody says "No," "That will never work," "That is a dumb idea," "That will cost too much," "That has already been tried," "That's a terrific idea." Note that even positive evaluations should not be done.

Don't clarify or seek clarification. Explanatory remarks interfere with the rapid and creative generation of possible solutions. When someone says "The reason I want to post notice on doors is.. . ," the ideas often slow down.

Go for zany ideas. A far-out idea may seem nonsensical but it may provide, in seed form, the solution that is finally adopted. Zany ideas can also relax the group and encourage creativity.

Expand on each other's ideas.
List every idea. Listing is just recording, without any editing or censoring.

Avoid attaching people's names to the ideas. Brainstorming is a group effort, and focusing on who gave the words is dysfunctional.

Source: People Skills by Robert Bolton, Ph.D. Simon & Schuster Australia, 20 Barcoo Street, East Roseville NSW 2069, Australia.

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RESOURCES

Peace Quotes

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.
MARGARET MEAD

Fashion shouldn't cost an arm and a leg.
In Defense of Animals

The finger pulls the trigger, but the trigger may also be pulling the finger.
DR. LEONARD BERKOWITZ

Cowardice, mother of cruelty.
MICHEL MONTAIGNE

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face . . . You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
ELEANOR ROOSEVELT

To fight and conquer in all our battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting.
SUN TZU

What is hateful to thyself do not do to another. This is the whole Law, the rest is Commentary.
HILLEL
(Jewish rabbi who died 9 A.D.)

Liberty lies in the hearts of men and women; when it dies there, no constitution, no law, no court can save it.
JUSTICE LEARNED HAND

If once the people become inattentive to the public affairs, you and I and Congress and assemblies, judges and governors, shall all become wolves.
THOMAS JEFFERSON

It is the duty . . .
. . . of every cultured man or woman to read sympathetically the scriptures of the world. If we are to respect others' religions as we would have them respect our own, a friendly study of the world's religions is a sacred duty.
MAHATMA GANDHI

There never was a war . . .
. . . that was not inward; I must fight till I have conquered in myself what causes war.
MARIANNE MOORE

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ECOLOGY

Four Steps to Effective Eco-Action

Here are key steps in initiating action to protect the environment:

1. Get the Facts. Gather information by, first, looking for signs of pollution around you, including unexplained ailments. Second, connect the symptoms with the causes, such as foul-tasting water in the area. Third, keep a diary or notes, including photographic evidences. Fourth, start locally and then diversify your sources of information. Then compare your findings with others.

2.Join Forces with Others. It makes your voice count for more. You can team up with local and national organizations that are concerned with the same issue.

3. Use the Law to Effect Change. Laws are usually already in existence in connection with the issue you are concerned with. It is the poor implementation that is the problem. Undertake a research on what laws are applicable to the issue.

4. Take Action. Establish a common goal with other concerned people. Form a coalition or organization. Clarify how the program will be funded - either from membership due, fund-raising, etc. Develop a plan of action. Plan your launching well. Use the media.

Source: Jon Naar, Design for a Livable Planet. Harper & Row, 10 East 53rd St., New York, NY, 10022, U.S.A.

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HEALTH

Beware of That Personal Stereo

Many kids today are fond of listening to music with a portable stereo unit with a headphone or earplug. In 1990, the National Deaf Children's Society tested all the personal stereos sold in Britain and found that every one of them could produce 90 decibels of sound, the equivalent to the noise of a pneumatic drill. This is dangerous to children's ears, as sounds entering are condensed into a much smaller and more delicate ear canal. When the ears of children are impaired, the need to turn the sounds louder, causing more damage to the ear.

Source: Bernadette Vallely, 1,001 Ways to Save the Planet. Ivy Books, Random House, Inc., New York, NY, U.S.A.

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RESOURCES

Notable Books

PEOPLE SKILLS by Robert Bolton, Ph.D. Simon & Schuster Australia, 20 Barcoo Street, East Roseville NSW 2069, Australia.

A useful handbook in developing skills for dealing with people and improving communication ability. Lack of skill in these areas is a major source of conflict among individuals and groups. The book covers such skills as listening, assertiveness, resolving conflicts, reading body language, handling emotional components of conflict, essentials of effective communication, etc.

You may also order this book from The Conflict Resolution Network, P.O. Box 1016, Chatswood NSW 2057, Australia.

WHEN ELEPHANTS WEEP by Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson and Susan McCarthy. Delacorte Press, Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group, 1540 Broadway, New York, New York 10036, U.S.A.

This is a major work that further validates the emotional lives of animals something many of us know but which remain unrecognized by science because of lack of hard evidence. It is filled with examples such as Michael, a gorilla who cannot be disturbed whenever Pavarotti sings on television, and Toto, the chimpanzee who nursed his malaria-stricken human observer back to health.

Well-known author Jane Goodall writes: This is not only an important book, it's marvelous! If animals could read they would be filled with joy and gratitude to the authors as I am. It is scholarly, vivid, and compelling. Please read it.

TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN SENSITIVITY by Linda and Richard Eyre. Fireside Books, Simon & Schuster, Inc. 1230 Avenue of the Americas, New York, NY 10020, U.S.A.

Practical ideas and suggestions on how to develop sensitivity and compassion among children and young people. Linda and Richard Eyre are the authors of the best-selling book Teaching Your Children Values. They are the founders of an international co-op called Homebase and have developed programs for nurturing young people to a well-rounded and mature life.

THE JOY OF SECTS: A SPIRITED GUIDE TO THE WORLD'S RELIGIOUS TRADITIONS by Peter Occhiogrosso. Doubleday, 1540 Broadway, New York, New York 10036, U.S.A.

A delightful guide to the world's religions, including the New Age and other spiritual movements of modern times. Each section ends with a glossary of terms and names that are significant to the subject. Booklist writes: Comparative religion can be dry but not the way Occhiogrosso writes it. Not only is this fat book comprehensive, it's lively, and perhaps best of all, easy to understand. An excellent resource.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE by Daniel Goleman. Bantam Books, 1540 Broadway, New York, NY 10036, U.S.A.

This book is a milestone in human self-understanding. Psychologists have traditionally used IQ or Intelligence Quotient as a measure of superiority or ability. Now this book demonstrates that numerous researches show that emotional intelligence (a new word for character actually) is more important than IQ. People who are successful and more fulfilled in life fare better in emotional intelligence, even if they are not outstanding in IQ.

This book contains summaries of scientific researches in a lively manner. It is a valuable resource book for those who are in education, psychology, and anyone engaged in human and social transformation.

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RELAXATION

Progressive Relaxation

Progressive relaxation, although an old technique, was first formalized in 1908 by Edmund Jacobson and is based on the principle that a muscle will become more relaxed after it is first tensed. The technique takes practice to master. After regular practice, most people find they can relax their body quickly. Here is an outline as outline by R. Z. Peurifoy:

Source: Reneau z. Peurifoy, Anxiety, Phobias and Panic. Warner Books Inc. 1271 Avenue of the Americas, New York, NY 10020, U.S.A.

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MEANINGFUL LIFE

Finding Meaningful Work

What is the difference between a work and a job?

A job only pays for the rent. But your life work feels worth doing. It is meaningful, whether it makes money or not.

Now what makes work meaningful?

Here are guidelines from Barbara Sher's I Could Do Anything, If I Only Knew What It Was:

In the end, the two are the same thing.

Without an activity that really matters to you, you're going to feel empty, even if you've set yourself up in Paradise and are living the life of the rich and famous. If you're not involved in something you truly care about, anyplace can seem like a prison.

Personal meaning connects your deepest gifts with the rest of the world. Whether you turn out to be a gardener or a builder, a filmmaker or a doctor - when you're doing the right work you will feel connected, both to your soul and to the world outside you. A gardener feels he's creating beauty and has reverence for nature. A builder or filmmaker feels she's using her best abilities to create something to delight the world. A doctor feels he's using his best skills and brains to heal people.

Source: Barbara Sher, with Barbara Smith, I Could Do Anything, If I Only Know What It Was. Dell Trade Paperback, 1540 Broadway, New York, NY, U.S.A.

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INNER PEACE

Two Ways of Deflating Anger

Anger causes people to act in ways that they may later regret. It is important therefore for individuals to learn how to deflate anger before it reaches a state of rage, during which the person can no longer think straight. Deflating anger does not mean suppressing it.

Dr. Dolf Zillmann, a psychologist of the University of Alabama, has undertaken extensive research about the origin and control of anger. He suggests two approaches to the deflation of anger, as summarized in Daniel Goleman's outstanding book, Emotional Intelligence:

Source: Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence. Bantam Books, 1540 Broadway, New York, N.Y. 10036, U.S.A.

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